What if you’d discover your Life is a videogame?

Yesterday I installed Ingress and my Life suddenly became a videogame.

While I was coming back home from my main office (about half an hour for 30 Km) I left the game on, and I found myself immersed in dark matter, blue and green fields.

Simple buildings and facilities suddenly become portals to an ancestral secret.

I found myself looking around while driving my car and watching the World from another point of view: I started to see the landscape overlayered by those energy lines and fields.

Then I asked to myself: what will happen when the wearable devices will be more sophisticated and powerful?

What will happen when we’ll wear our glasses and our usual World will change into an alien landscape?

While we wait to see the answer someone managed to bring your favorite game into your real World.

Look at the video below…

How about you?

When you found yourself like living a videogame?

I wait for your answer in the comments…

Hopeful: how may a kid overcome bullying? [VIDEO]

Hopeful: how may a kid overcome bullying?

 

I could express myself through what I was writing down
The real story of a bullied kid who found his own way to overcome the harassment from Mr Bully : the Music!
I suggest you to listen to the whole song for it describes all the event.

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============ Lyric ============
(http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/barsandmelody/hopeful.html)
(the bold is mine)

Oh-oh-oh
Check it out
Oh no
Here we go

*Please help me God, I feel so alone
I’m just a kid, how can I take it on my own*
I’ve cried too many tears, yeah, writing this song
Trying to fit in, where do I belong?
I wake up every day, don’t want to leave my home
My momma’s askin’ me why I’m always alone
Too scared to say, too scared to holler
I’m walking to school, with sweat around my collar
I’m just a kid, I don’t want no stress
My nerves are bad, my life’s a mess
The names you call me, they hurt real bad
I want to tell my Mom
She’s havin’ trouble with my Dad
I feel so trapped there’s nowhere to turn
Just goin’ to school
Don’t wanna fight I wanna learn
So please mister Bully
Tell me what I’ve done
You know I have no Dad
I’m livin’ with my Mom

Just be hopeful, yes I am
Hopeful for today
Take this music and use it
Let it take you away
And *be hopeful, hopeful
And He’ll make a way*
I know it ain’t easy but that’s okay
Just be hopeful

Why do you trip every single day?
I didn’t ask to be born but now I have to pay
I ain’t got no money, you take all I have
When I give it to you, I search through my bags
I feel so scared when you shut me down
You kick me, punch me, throw me to the ground
When I ask you, yo, what have I done?
You hit me again, and make fun of my Mom!

I’m hopeful, yes I am
Hopeful for today
Take this music and use it
Let it take you away
And be hopeful, hopeful
And He’ll make a way
I know it ain’t easy, but, that’s okay
Just be hopeful

What I wear is all I have
We lost our home, I’m livin’ from a bag
Yo mister Bully, help me please
I’m flesh and blood, accept me please
Hey mister bully, I don’t know what to do
My mind, it can’t explain what I did to you
Mister Bully, take in all my please
Every single day you bring me to my knees

Hopeful, yes I am
Hopeful for today
Take this music and use it
Let it take you away
And be hopeful, hopeful
And He’ll make a way
I know it ain’t easy, but, that’s okay
Just be hopeful.

The Levels of the Reality

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What Level are you Living In?
We live many lives, and while days pass by we create more and more levels of Reality.
This is what I see when I walk the Web: different levels of the same Reality.
So an online relationship is just another relationship, a friendship is just another friendship…
And when you feel something for your Virtual Friend, when you struggle for his struggles, when you feel his desires, how can you tell the difference?

How social networks may prevent suicide

The Web is just a tool: we can use it to harm ourselves or to protect ourselves.
So we always talk about Online Groups as places where people look for confirmations of their issues (i.e.: pro-ana forums).
But what if Social Networks would have the power to protect us, i.e.: preventing suicidal behaviors?

This is my next essay: the mind map is almost finished.

> Click HERE to get the MindMap <

Here what you get from it:

The Power of the Social Networks for Teens support

  • Social support
  • Container
  • Peer support
  • Favored channels to be contacted
  • The protection of the screen
  • The next step
  • Going Glocal
  • The first protected steps

The 5 Red Flags about Suicidal intentions

  • Arranging ways to take their own life (such as buying a gun or many pills)
  • Suddenly changing behavior/mood
  • Depression
  • Conscious/unconscious arranging their “last affairs”
  • Change in physiology behavior

http://www.nytimes.com/health/guides/disease/suicide­and­suicidal­behavior/overview.html

http://www.save.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewpage&page_id=705f4071­99a7­f3f5­e2a64a5a8beaadd8

The “Suicide Concept”

  • Life has come to an end
  • Time to disappear

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Connecting Dots

Connecting Dots
Sometimes people come to my office because they are unable to find a meaning in their Life.
The dots of your Life sometimes appear as random objects that enter your World and then fade away.
But have you ever tried to watch them in their whole pattern?
Even a butterfly flight has a purpose…

Meeting your Online Friends in Real Life – Booklet

Meeting Online Friends

> Get the booklet for FREE: click HERE! <

The first Online contact
The power of the Avatar
Idealization
Transfert
Counter­transfert

How do you perceive your Online friends ?
It’s all in your Mind
Image
Mirror

Resistances
What if the Magic would break?
I’m not so perfect…and he/she will realize it!

At last Offline, and the Cathartic Experience
The Ah­ah moment…not so Ah­ah…

Tips
Don’t push the river
Keep your own pace
Offline step by step
Socials
Emails
Chats
More intimate instant messaging (ie: WhatsApp)
Videocalls
First meetings in a protected environment
Clubbing events
Restaurants
Crowded places

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Teens and the Web: how we can help them

Teens and the Web How we can help themHow and Why do teens use new media?

How can we help them?

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In this free ebook you’ll find:

Why and How do Teens use New Media

We have to discover how Teens use New Media if we want to help them.

What does the Web mean to them?

Starting from their Identity, through their sense of belonging, you discover how they use the Web to ask us to let them be able to shape their Future and their Destiny.

The Wrong Practices

How many times did you complain about how your sons use the Web and their smartphone?

Starting from here, passing through the permissive parenting style, you discover the most huge mistakes parents usually do when dealing with their teens.

The Best Practices

Are you sure your teens stay all day long on their smartphone because they really like it?

Have you ever made a contract with your son?

Download the ebook to know other useful tips.

How to Set Them Up

Respect, trust, helping them to learn how to deal with Emotions, are only some of the tips you have to follow for the best practices be effective.

So download the ebook by clicking the button below, then, I wait for your feedback in the comments.

Doctor Ivan Ferrero – Digital Psychologist

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Why you Parents should know the Web of your Teens

Beaufort sixth-grader suicidal teenMaybe we aren’t alive, she wrote, but are living inside a dream, just a figment of someone else’s imagination.

One of the 12-year-old’s friends liked her thought-provoking post, as did her parents, Dale and Clarissa Wills, who said they tracked Celeste’s use of Facebook and made random checks of her cellphone.

But Dale and Clarissa Wills did not know about Tumblr…After Celeste took her own life April 30, the Wills family learned their Robert Smalls Middle School sixth-grader wrote a Tumblr blog under a pseudonym.

Though children younger than 13 are barred from all social networking sites, Celeste started the blog Oct. 17, about a week after her 12th birthday. She first posted thoughts about suicide in November and continued to share her struggles — as well as more positive posts about anime (Japanese cartoons), music and the Internet — over the next five months.

 

 

Via: www.islandpacket.com

 

Parents are always concerned about their teens when it’s time to talk about Facebook and similars.

Teens use the Web to communicate and express themselves as like as we use the air to breath or a fish uses the water to swim, so it’s very difficult for us to listen to them and, most of all, to protect them.

What makes so difficult for us to protect them against Cyberbullying?

The answer lies inside the nature of the Web:

  • Multi-channel: there are myriads of Social Networks, from the most famous ones to the less famous. There are lots of smartphone apps, forums, communitites, etc…Dozens of new ways are created every day, from the major ones to the little startups. Even videogames have their own chats!
  • Fluid: while new platforms appear, old platforms die every day, making it hard to monitor all these changes
  • Multi-presence: while it’s hard to attend multiple offline groups, it’s very easy to subscribe lots of online communities and chats
  • Teens have lot of spare time: we not, so our attention span is very limited compared to all the spare time our teens have to attend so many on line chats and to discover new Apps
  • Teens are fast when we talk about technology: it’s their future, it’s where they are going to live, so they train strenuously and are able to shift from a platform to another with ease
  • Anonymity: while social networks like Facebook encourage to create “real” profiles, people are still allowed to create fake or multiple profiles. Many platforms still allow to register with a nickname

How can we adults monitor all of our sons online activities?

We can’t…

We can try, we can monitor some of them, but we must realize we’ll never be able to monitor all of them: there will always be shadows.

As I say in my booklet, this is only the lower level: we have to acquire a higher point of view.

Trust is the solution…

We still can create a connection with our sons so that they’ll be more encouraged to talk with us about their online issues as they happen.

Teenage is a strange age: teens feel themselves adult, yet they still haven’t an adult Identity.

So while they look for their autonomy, it’s up to us to find the right balance between protection and freedom of movement.

If you want to know more about this topic I strongly suggest to have a look at my booklet, then please leave your opinion here.

41 Free Internet Addiction PDF Ebooks & Documents to Download here

ebook_penguinWhat you find in this list:

I’m used to say Internet addiction is not the cause: it’s the effect of a Complex System.

This list of free PDF ebooks covers the topic plus lot of informations about addiction in general.

Though they are out of date (some researches come from 2009), it’s a useful resource to learn the basics of addiction and Internet addiction.

It provides a useful resource to learn the history of the Internet addiction research: you can find names like Dr Kimberly Young.

That’s why professionals will find a great value in these PDFs, while non-professionals have to be aware of what changed from the time of these researches until now.

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Cyberbullying: as Mass Medias tell to us?

Cyberbullying and suicidal teensDiscerning Cyberbullying

While all the world is talking about cyberbullying, we need to discern the reality (numbers) from the perception (what we think about).

A research by Dan Olweus, PhD, of the University of Bergen, Norway, tells us that Cyberbullying in the USA is less frequent than the Traditional Bullying.

In the sample of the research “an average of 18 percent of students said they had been verbally bullied, while about 5 percent said they had been cyberbullied“.

While asking the young whether tey had been cyberbullied or not may be a weak research tool (we can argue some teens hadn’t the courage to expose themselves), the result is still worth considering.

Not only: other analysis showed that 80 percent to 90 percent of cyberbullied students were also exposed to traditional forms of bullying.

(http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/08/120806093942.htm)

This leads us to other numbers:

Cyberbullying only rarely is the sole factor identified in teen suicides

A research presented on Oct. 20 2012, at the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) National Conference and Exhibition in New Orleans, shows us a more complex pattern.

In 41 suicide cases identified by the research “78 percent of adolescents who committed suicide were bullied both at school and online, and only 17 percent were targeted online only“.

There’s also a correlation with mental disease: “A mood disorder was reported in 32 percent of the teens, and depression  symptoms in an additional 15 percent.”

These numbers show us that Cyberbullying is just a piece of a huge puzzle.

(http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/10/121020162615.htm)

So Are Cyberbullying and Bullying the same?

They are two pieces of the same pattern, yet they’re not the same.

Traditional Bullying ( Schoolyard Bullying) is associated with 3 characteristics:

  • a power differential between bully and victim
  • a proactive targeting of a victim
  • ongoing aggression

and 3 roles:

  • victim
  • bully
  • witness

While in Traditional Bullying these roles are rigid, in Cyberbullying they are more fluid, so that lot of times the same teenager may act all of these roles

(http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/04/120413122202.htm)

 

What can we do to fix the problem?

Although Cyberbullying and Bullying are different, they must be treated as parts of the same system.

The programs used to prevent Traditional Bullying are useless in Cyberbullying because teenagers don’t equate them: they usually downplay Cyberbullying: we need new tools, maybe 2.0 tools?

What do you think about it?

Share your opinion in the comments…